What are the choices that you have made in your life? While the choices are too numerous to count or recall, it is easy to view the result of those choices – look in the mirror. You are the living testimony to the choices that you have made. We are each full and active participants in our lives. We happen to life, life does not happen to us. Life is all about choices and taking responsibility to make those choices.
We are responsible for so much of our lives that it is a daunting responsibility. We are responsible for our thoughts, our feelings, our attitudes, our words, our actions and our reactions. We are fortunately, not responsible for the thoughts, feelings, attitudes, words, actions or reactions of anyone else – that is their responsibility.
If you do not take responsibility for what is under your control that is your choice. Even choosing not to decide is your choice. The belief that your life is about chance rather than choice, results in a feeling of victimization and the belief that what befalls us is not under our control. Relinquishing control (in other words pretending that you don’t have control) provides us with the freedom to blame someone or something for anything in which we are not happy. It is a journey which does not lend itself to internal searches for meaning or answers. It is living a life of “Why me?” “You did this to me.” “Why does this always happen to me.” “This was beyond my control.” “He made me do this.” “I said that because she…”